The summer holidays can oftentimes be a cause of dispute for parents who are separated, with both parents wanting to squeeze in some extra time with their child, disagreements can arise quickly.
These disputes can often snowball into something larger quickly. With routines changing and holiday plans to consider, careful planning and cooperation are essential to ensure the summer runs smoothly for everyone involved.
The importance of planning ahead
One of the best ways to avoid disputes during the summer holidays is to start discussions as early as possible.
Unlike during the school term, where arrangements may follow a predictable routine, summer often involves holidays, childcare requirements, family events and changes to work schedules.
Parents should discuss key dates well in advance, including any planned trips, childcare needs and special occasions.
Sharing information early allows both parties to make arrangements and raise any concerns before they become problems.
Clear communication is equally important. Keeping discussions focused on practical solutions and the needs of the child can help prevent unnecessary conflict.
Where direct communication is difficult, parenting apps, emails or text messages can provide a helpful way to keep records of agreed plans and avoid misunderstandings.
Managing holidays
This time is often one of excitement for parents, as they want to whisk their child away abroad and spend an extended amount of time with them.
This, though, can often cause a dispute between parents if relationships are strained.
It is best to let the other parent know your intentions ahead of time and arrange times during the holiday when they can be in contact with the child.
From a legal standpoint, the decision lies wholly with the court order that is in place between the parents.
If the child lives with you under the order, you can take the child out of the country for up to 28 days without needing consent, although it is always wise to seek the other parent’s agreement.
What to do if you cannot come to an agreement
The most important consideration, if you and an ex cannot agree, is the child’s best interest, the child needs to be at the heart of all discussions.
The aim should always be to provide the child with stability, reassurance and a good time during the summer holidays.
When a disagreement arises, parents should try to address issues early on, openly and honestly.
If this method of communication is ineffective, many parents resort to mediation.
Family mediation is often an effective option, providing a neutral environment where parents can discuss concerns and work towards a practical solution.
Mediation encourages cooperation and can often resolve issues more quickly and cost-effectively than formal legal proceedings.
Where an agreement cannot be reached through mediation, or where there are urgent concerns regarding arrangements, court may be the only answer.
Parents may need to apply to the court for a Specific Issue Order or a Prohibited Steps Order depending on the circumstances of the case.
If there are child arrangements already in place, parents may need to go to court to apply to vary an existing Child Arrangements Order, especially where long-term arrangements are concerned.
If difficulties are expected regarding child arrangements, it is advised to seek legal advice early, as these court processes can take quite some time.
How can we help?
The summer holidays should be a time of positive core memories for your child, not a memory of their parents arguing.
Here at Squares Law, we are committed to finding amicable solutions between parents when sorting out child arrangements over the summer.
We can assist with every step of the journey, from mediation to court, to maximise the amount of time you spend with your child over the summer.
Get in touch today for advice on child arrangements during the summer holidays!
